Brad Yates
Every issue that we have, any belief or behavior that is standing in the way of an abundance of health, wealth and/or happiness in our lives is there for a reason.
Our subconscious mind has decided that this issue will keep us safe from the dangers of the life we consciously think we desire.
So, here's a question for you.
How safe do you feel saying "no" to people?
While I encourage you to say "yes" to life, there are times when the appropriate answer for you is "no".
Someone wants to sell you something you just don't want.
Someone invites you to go someplace you don't want to go.
Someone asks you to buy something for them that you don't want them to have, etc.
Now, you may be one of those folks who are very comfortable simply saying, "No thank you." If so, I hope you acknowledge that quality that is a real freedom.
On the other hand, you may be one of the multitudes who have a belief that you need to give a reason for saying "no", one that the person can't argue with.
Most importantly, one that will keep them from being upset with you.
How convenient, then, to be able to simply state, "I can't afford it."
While poverty may not be much fun, it can certainly be a convenient excuse for backing out of situations with which we are not comfortable.
I mean, if you don't say "yes", people are going to want an explanation, right? There will be this expectation that you have a darn good reason for not complying with their request. And it better be one that satisfies them without upsetting them.
"I can't afford it" is so simple, and who's going to argue. If they are pushy, they might try to get you to spend the money anyway' but only to a point. In fact, the broker you are, the easier it is to get out of the situation.
Not only are they less likely to get upset , you may even get pity, or they might then do something to try to take care of you.
Yes, it's our old friend (nemesis?): secondary gain.
If you obviously have the money, you are left with the choice of saying "yes" or doing some fancy footwork.
Or are you?
Who said you need to justify yourself? Who said you have to give a reason?
In most cases (all?) you don't owe them an explanation. If they need one, that is their issue, and looking for a safe answer may only be supporting one of their issues. That's not compassion, it's codependence. Decide to have healthy boundaries.
If there is value to the other person in giving a reason, then that makes sense, such as, "No, son, you can't have a grenade launcher, because it would be dangerous, it would cause damage that would hurt our property's value, and I want you to focus on peace rather than war."
It would add no value to say, "No, son, I can't afford it."
In fact, that would be very damaging. If you are using "can't afford" as an excuse with your kids, be aware that you are setting them up for the same kind of poverty consciousness that may be blocking your own abundance.
Make the decision that you choose to feel safe saying "no." If you know that is the right answer for you, that's enough, you don't need to convince the other person.
And, if you feel safe saying "no," that's one more reason to feel safe having abundance.
And the truth is, you can afford it, whatever it is, if you really want it.
Stating that you can't creates the continued illusion of lack, so it's a harmful thing to say. But it doesn't change the fact that there is more than enough out there, or the fact that you deserve to tap into it.
The freedom of choice may seem scary, but don't leave it to artificially created financial difficulties to make your choices for you. In an effort to have a safe excuse for saying "no," you are also blocking your ability to say, "yes" to so many other things. Please - knock that off.
Now, say it with me:
It is safe to say "no". It is safe to have an abundance of money.
Good. So it is spoken, so it is done.
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